Appearance Myth #2: It shouldn't matter how I look

This is the other side of the coin: Guys are wired visually.  They are attracted to girls’ forms.  It is very difficult for girls to relate to this because, generally speaking, they aren’t AS attracted to purely physical things.  Of course, a good looking guy is great, but most girls are into “specific” guys.  Few girls like staring at men’s legs.  It’s almost funny to think about.  But the opposite is absolutely true. 

So, what you wear does make an impact on the guys around you.  Something that might, to you, seem cute or trendy, might very well be a turn on to some guys.  Is that bad?  No.  It just is reality.  There was a time when guys were attracted to a “well-turned ankle” because that was the only part of a woman’s body that was exposed in public.  I think it is just good for girls to be aware of what typical male nature is like.  They like the female form and more skin or curves will be noticed by them. 

So, what should you do about it?  Well, first of all, accept that you are a young woman.  God made you feminine.  Some girls get afraid of guys’ attractions so much that they hide their femininity.  You don’t need to do this.  There’s nothing shameful about expressing your femininity.  On the other hand, you are not required to show it off in ways that make you uncomfortable.  Don’t let fashion tell you what to do. 

Is it okay to show off your femininity?  Yes, but be aware of what you’re doing.  There are times and places to make yourself more noticeable.  You may want to attract someone.  But be aware that you will get more attention, even from those you might not want it from.  Again, I’m not making judgments here.  It’s just good to understand the reality of how guys are. 

Again, you are not responsible for guys’ reactions, no matter how attractive you dress.  They can control themselves.  Yet, do be aware that guys are what they are.