Monday, October 30, 2017

Tech Trouble: FaKebook

By its nature, technology is a short-cut.  That’s why we love it.  It takes any number of tasks that once were laborious and makes them quick and easy.  But, much like fast-food, it’s convenient and tasty, but a fast-food-only diet robs you of the more valuable things in life. 


To me this issue becomes one of trust.  Will I trust what I read online because it’s easy to find?  For example, Steiner says, “Teens tell me about the hidden time they spend cultivating their identities on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, or school e-mail groups….It is tedious and time-consuming work and, they say half-joking, it presents ethical dilemmas about truth in packaging: do you tinker with truth…or brag about a party adventure that you weren’t really in on, or Photoshop your image?”

My Reaction:

I know someone whose daughter told everyone online she was pregnant.  That gossip got around to me via a neighbor.  It was just a joke, but we didn’t know that until much later.  Translate this outside of social media: Googling a question or going to ask.com is so easy.  Should I trust what they say?

I wonder: what will it be like for my daughters?  When my oldest starts using the web (which she does not yet), will she trust a website over my opinion, or Wikipedia over her Bible? 


Or are teens today more perceptive than we all think?  Maybe they aren’t obsessed with technology 24/7 and actually know what to use the Net for and what not to.  I don’t know.  What do you think?

Questions:

Do you or friends spend a lot of developing your online profiles?

What would happen if you didn’t keep up your profile?

Does social media tempt you to lie about yourself or others?

Tech Trouble: Talking or Teching

“I think [tech has] taken away, like, this generation’s ability to socialize like normal human beings.’” 

-a teen
Steiner’s research found many teens opting for communicating through text because “’it’s just too awkward for them to do it face-to-face.’”  Those teens say texting is easier and better because you can think about what to write and you don’t have to see the other person’s reaction.  However, Steiner, points out that, “Learning how to communicate is one of life’s greatest challenges and gifts.  The capacity to know and communicate what you are thinking and feeling, when someone else has their different thoughts and feelings and you both are upset, is a core life skill.”  What is missing from ‘teching’ is “the ability to see the impact of what you are saying on the other person, to listen to what the other person is feeling without losing touch with yourself, and to be able to figure out together how to move forward.”

Reaction:

Avoiding face-to-face contact is not that new.  Teens in my day often wrote notes when they had to say something tough.  Still, I think writing is different from ‘teching’ or texting.  You naturally take more time to compose your thoughts, which gives you more time to consider the impact your words could have.  When texting, I often write ‘too’ much because I want to make sure it’s received the way I mean. 

Recently, I’ve heard of people who have made commitments to themselves to never text concerning an emotional subject.  I know one dating couple that made a decision to stop texting and actually talk when they were upset or needed to work through something.  They didn’t give up texting; they just gave it some parameters.

Questions:

Is the opening quote by the teen true?

Do you feel teens are less good at communicating in person because of the prevalence of texting?

Have you or anyone you know made healthy parameters around texting for the sake of their friendship/relationship?

Monday, October 16, 2017

Loving UPward

Love is not just the domain of chick flicks and cheesy pop songs.  Love is also the domain of the greatest literature and art in the history of mankind.  Even God, when trying to explain the intensity of the passion between the Messiah and His people, compared them to the passion between a bride and a groom.

This is because one of the most dangerous, exciting, and satisfying journeys of life is the adventure of finding and learning to love one person, and love them well.

One contemporary author who writes a great deal about love is Debra K. Fileta.  She is a regular relationship columnist for Relevant Magazine.  Read her article: Here's How to Find True Love



I'd like to get some dialogue running about Fileta's three concepts of dating inward, outward, and upward.

After reading about dating upward in her article, here are some questions I think that are worth exploring:

How does a normal teen actually do this?
What does it practically mean to allow God's "definition of love to permeate your relationships"?
How will dating look differently if God is involved?

Loving INward

Love is not just the domain of chick flicks and cheesy pop songs.  Love is also the domain of the greatest literature and art in the history of mankind.  Even God, when trying to explain the intensity of the passion between the Messiah and His people, compared them to the passion between a bride and a groom.

This is because one of the most dangerous, exciting, and satisfying journeys of life is the adventure of finding and learning to love one person, and love them well.

One contemporary author who writes a great deal about love is Debra K. Fileta.  She is a regular relationship columnist for Relevant Magazine.  Read her article: Here's How to Find True Love


I'd like to get some dialogue running about Fileta's three concepts of dating inward, outward, and upward.

After reading about dating inward in her article, here are some questions I think that are worth exploring:

What in the world does it mean to "get to know yourself"?


Why is dating inward important to a relationship?

Loving Outward

Love is not just the domain of chick flicks and cheesy pop songs.  Love is also the domain of the greatest literature and art in the history of mankind.  Even God, when trying to explain the intensity of the passion between the Messiah and His people, compared them to the passion between a bride and a groom.

This is because one of the most dangerous, exciting, and satisfying journeys of life is the adventure of finding and learning to love one person, and love them well.

One contemporary author who writes a great deal about love is Debra K. Fileta.  She is a regular relationship columnist for Relevant Magazine.  Read her article: Here's How to Find True Love



I'd like to get some dialogue running about Fileta's three concepts of dating inward, outward, and upward.

After reading about dating outward in her article, here are some questions I think that are worth exploring:

Why is this so scary?
When is a good time to start?


How will dating outward look differently if you're a follower of Jesus?  What do you think Fileta means by saying, "It is a give-and-take that must never desperately give too much or fearfully give too little"?

Friday, October 6, 2017

Rapaccini's Daughter audio tracks

Here are audio versions of "Rapaccini's Daughter" for those of you in my English class.  You can listen to them here or download them (click on the down-pointed arrow).  They are divided by page number, though, if a page ends in the middle of a paragraph, I read through to the end of it on the next page.  The next page audio then begins with the first full paragraph.

PLEASE NOTE! The tracks (for some reason) are not in order below.  Make sure to click on the pages you want.


Wednesday, September 6, 2017

Dennis Prager on Happiness

Here is a great talk from nationally syndicated talk show host Dennis Prager to a high school on how to actually be happy.


Thursday, April 13, 2017

Good? Friday

A Hand reached from the other side,
into the void that is our life.
No more will you be a boat
tossed about by angry waves
determined to crush
this already splintering piece of bark.
Waves once cowered at this Voice.
And they shall once more,
for the voice is no longer just a voice,
but a presence, true presence
that has come into life, our life
and known it all, the intimacy of suffering,
the ache of loss, the anxiety of death,
the lash of betrayal,

Your feet are now coupled,
wedded to an ever present groom.

painful joy
happy sadness
sweet tears
healing blood
searing pleasure
Good Friday.



-Kurt Maechner

Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Horror Movies and being a Christ-follower: Do they go together?

With a brother several years older than myself, I started watching horror movies when I was quite young.  Friday the 13th, Nightmare on Elm Street, Texas Chainsaw Massacre; you name it.  It surprised me that, even when I got older, disturbing images from these films still were very vivid in my mind and sometimes came to me at moments when they were less than useful!

I simply decided that I didn't want this kind of stuff in my brain.  So at some point in my 20s, I stopped watching horror films and haven't looked back.

My motive was largely practical.  I don't think I fully processed through the spiritual implications of watching these movies.  For that reason, I thought it would be good to quote those who have.  Below is an article I found online that does a good job at looking at the issues that a Christian faces concerning the implications of watching horror films.

I do not have an agenda here.  I picked this one particularly because it doesn't come down fully on the "don't watch them" or the "who cares?" side.  That I believe is the freedom of the believer in Christ.  We each interact with our Savior individually and therefore can seek him for clarity that may or may not apply to others.

Here is the article from 412teens.org:

Should a Christian Watch Scary Movies/Horror Films?

Over the last hundred years, movies have moved from being a curious and magical novelty to something so ingrained in mainstream culture that to have never seen a movie is similar to having never ridden in a car or touched a computer. And over that period of time, movies have become not just a tool for mindless entertainment, but also a tool for spreading messages—both positive and negative. Healthy and unhealthy. Storytelling is a powerful tool for things deeper than just "entertainment" and often reflects some grain of truth from Romans 1:18-21 about the hearts of men.


The Point of Horror

A horror movie is, by definition, a story that produces "an intense feeling of fear, shock, or disgust." Scary stories that would fall into the horror category have always been around, tailored to their cultures of origin. Many classical fairy tales (which are just as brutal, if not more so, than a lot of today's "horror") were told to teach lessons to children, or to discourage wrongdoing.
But with people becoming more and more desensitized, something that used to be considered a nightmares standard might now be used as a cheap thrill that's tame enough for a TV commercial. As such, it is harder to shock an audience that has grown up around stylized carnage and a less solid standard of good and evil, right and wrong.

Horror tries to shock people in a variety of ways: gratuitous gore, psychological terrors (What's around the corner? Is there actually a monster in the house?), spiritual warfare, or even just jump-out-of-your-seat scenes that make the audience hit the ceiling from an adrenaline rush of fear. Often the shock is there for the shock itself—not for any grand, overarching point.
That's not to say that you can't learn anything from a horror movie, but you should still exercise discernment when watching or reading or playing anything.

Should Christians watch horror movies?

As Christians, we should be extremely aware that "our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places" (Ephesians 6:12). We know that very real demons are out to "steal, kill and destroy" (John 10:10). Satan and his servants are trying to trip us up at any chance they get; spiritual warfare is not a subject to be taken lightly.

Regardless of what type of decision we're making—whether it be about life or media choices—we must always listen to what the Holy Spirit is saying to us through our conscience. Is He saying, "No, don't watch that"? Then don't! Are you not sure if the Holy Spirit is saying no? Then it would be safer to avoid whatever it is you're wondering about, just to be on the safe side—at least until you have a clearer answer. Nothing is worth stifling God's voice (1 Thessalonians 5:19Ephesians 4:30)!

Secondly, have your parents told you no? Then no matter of what movies you think are okay, you are to respect and obey their decision (Ephesians 6:1-3).

How can I have discernment about horror movies?

As we grow in our faith, we should become increasingly more sensitive to sin and evil. We are supposed to be different, standing out as beacons of light in a dark, sin-filled world (1 Thessalonians 2:12). We should keep our minds on "whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute" (Philippians 4:8).

That said, there are some who can still find the things listed in Philippians 4:8 in horror/scary films. There are movies that fall under the category of "horror" that show more truth and ask deeper questions than one might expect. Some horror films even come from Christian filmmakers, either using their unique view on the world to reach a different audience that may not otherwise be exposed to God's Truth or to show the reality of struggles that a lot of other Christian media won't touch. We all know that life is not always a happy and uplifting romantic comedy; sometimes darker stories are needed to portray a certain message.

In the end, you know yourself best.

For some people, they need to avoid superfluous scares because they struggle with fear enough as is;
they don't need any additional stimulant in that area. If horror and scary movies will affect you in a way that makes you go against your morals and conscience or makes it more difficult to rest in God's secure embrace or even leads you to search for a way to justify watching them, then STEP AWAY.

If you decide to give these types of films a shot, check your motives, check your heart, and if possible, do your research. Be aware that very few review websites will ever be completely accurate, and all are biased, even if slightly, one way or the other. Know your own limitations. Know your weaknesses. Ask God for guidance. Perhaps you are one of those who will find horror movies to your personal edification.

"Test yourselves to see if you are in the faith; examine yourselves! Or do you not recognize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you—unless indeed you fail the test?" —2 Corinthians 13:5



Friday, February 17, 2017

This Presidents' Day, take time to honor...Silent Cal!

To celebrate Presidents' Day, let me introduce you to a US president that I knew nothing about until recently.  His nickname was "Silent Cal."  Check out this president who did things dramatically different from any of our recent commanders in chief.


Thursday, January 26, 2017

Prisoner of Zenda Audio Files

For my students: You can listen to the audio tracks by clicking on the arrow.  If you would like to download it to put it on your ipod etc., click on the title (i.e. PoZ Chapter 5).  You will be taken to Soundcloud.com.  There you will see a "download" option.  After you have downloaded it, you can add it to your iTunes library.
***UPDATE: if you play these tracks from my blog and hit pause, for some reason you get a screen asking you to go to Sound Cloud.  To start playing the track again, just click the X in the right corner and you'll see the play button once more.   

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Abortion: Let's be reasonable

A couple of days ago at our school we celebrated, like many other schools, National Right to Life day.

I have been challenged and encouraged by thinker and nationally syndicated radio show host Dennis Prager for many years.  He challenges Christians and Jews to realize that, while explaining our beliefs by using Scripture is good, it doesn't hold much weight for secular (non-religious) people.  Of course, the Bible has authority regardless of whether other people think so or not, but Prager's point is that we must be able to explain our values through logic and reason as well.

Below is an example of Dennis Prager explaining logically why abortion is not moral.  Check it out.  It's only 5 minutes.


Thursday, January 19, 2017

An Ugly Romance: Love Without Legs

This story is cute.

But it's actually quite ugly.

Check out this video that shows their story.


Andrew and Tori Smith rushed their wedding to marry before Andrew's military deployment.  Within a short amount of time Andrew, stationed in in Afghanistan, stepped on an IED and lost both of his legs.

The vigorous commitment of his wife Tori is inspiring.  She drove hours to reach the last-minute location of the landing of the plane with her injured husband.  When he arrived at the hospital, she ignored protocol, breaking through the acceptable distance in order to hold his hand, kiss him, and tell him she loved him.

Hospital personnel instructed Tori that she was not to stay with her husband in the hospital room.
She disregarded them and stayed, even sleeping in a chair.

She stayed with him through every bend in the road and helped learn to walk again with prosthetic legs.  Today they are still together.

So cute, right?  But think about how ugly things really are.  What is it like to lay in bed with your husband who has no legs?  How might this affect their romantic relationship?  What limits might this put on their future?  Will he ever be able to run around with their future children?

One article said, "Shrapnel from the explosion ripped through his groin and slashed apart his abdomen...He lost his abdominal muscles on his right side.  Doctors performed 15 surgeries on his intestines."  I have no idea the implications these injuries have on Andrew's daily living, but there's got to be lots.

To me, though, recognizing these 'ugly' factors shows what real beauty is: love, commitment, affection in the midst of sadness, or even in spite of it.

It is proof that light can conquer darkness, that love can stomp on destruction.

Jesus' love is like this.  His cross-bearing is disgusting when you fully understand crucifixion.  And look at us, our failings, our messiness, yet love, His love pushes back the darkness.

Andrew and Tori have seen the evil, the destruction, the darkness that life tries to flood us with, and yet have said, "No, our love, and romance spits in the face of evil."

And there is beauty.

Is there someone you are trying to love, but it is messy?  Do you see the real beauty of your love?  Is there someone who loves you in your imperfections.  Do you honor the beauty of that love?

Do you, now, see why "Jesus loves me" is not just an old-hat, clichéd phrase?  In those three words there is universe-shattering, shocking, excessive beauty.



Here's the article that first introduced me to the Smith's and where I got a lot of the info above.
Here is a recent article about them:
Here is a more recent photo of them:
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