Married to God? God and Sex

Teen Spirituality Part 4

Do you remember sex education when you were in 5^th grade?  Weird!  I remember talking to my parents about it at one point (that did not happen much) and I asked if they still had sex.  I told them that I assumed that people stopped doing that once they had kids.  She shocked me by telling me that that wasn’t true.  Ahhh!!!

Even as I became a teen I figured that old people (meaning anyone married and over the age of 25) didn’t do “that stuff” anymore. Well now I’m an “old” married guy and can tell you: We do “that stuff”!  I know this seems weird to talk about, right?  I think that is a problem for us Christians-we don’t want to talk about “bad stuff.”  Guess what: It’s not bad.  And I think we should talk about it more. 

Here’s the thing.  Love-making in marriage is not just a side thing.  It is one of the few things in life that you don’t share with anybody else.  It’s expression that goes beyond words.  It is emotionally bonding.  It can be passionate, it can be fun, and sometimes it can be so-so (like all things that you do often), but is a sweet time of closeness that makes you and the one you love feel tight. 

But, oddly enough, there are many, many married couples who don’t do it.  When you’re young I know it seems like, “How could you not do it when you can?!”  There can be lots of reasons ranging from emotional hurts to betrayal, but more often there is a very common reason: being busy. 

When two people have jobs and families and church activities and so on, it can be hard to find time (and energy!) to be alone and intimate.  That’s why my wife and I, with four kids, have had to work hard to make time to be alone together.  It’s not easy and requires planning on our parts, but our relationship is so worth that effort.

So, go ahead, Mr. Maechner, relate THIS to God!  Okay! 

We connect with God in many ways, though often times those are mental.  We may read the Bible, read a Christian book, listen to sermons, podcasts, or read blogs.  Those are good, but we are also emotional people.  My wife and I like to talk a lot, but that’s not the only thing that makes a marriage.  We need to connect on a desire level too.

One of my favorite songs of all time in the Bible is Psalm 63 where David sings, “O God, you are my God.  Earnestly I seek You.  My soul thirsts for you, my body longs for you…Because Your love is better than life with lips will glorify you.”  These are words spoken out of longing.  This is passion.


Are we too busy to take moments to f e e l God?  That may happen in many ways.  It could be through worship, just sitting and thinking about Him, by listening to music that tugs at your emotions, writing poetry or songs for Your Love, just smiling and thanking Him, by dancing alone (or at church if your church does that!).  It can be anything.  It might be shooting hoops in your backyard with Your Father on your mind. 
Whatever it is, let’s take time to be intimate and express desire toward our Heavenly Lover.