This is because one of the most dangerous, exciting, and satisfying journeys of life is the adventure of finding and learning to love one person, and love them well.
One contemporary author who writes a great deal about love is Debra K. Fileta. She is a regular relationship columnist for Relevant Magazine. Read her article: Here's How to Find True LoveI'd like to get some dialogue running about Fileta's three concepts of dating inward, outward, and upward.
After reading about dating outward in her article, here are some questions I think that are worth exploring:
Why is this so scary?
When is a good time to start?
How will dating outward look differently if you're a follower of Jesus? What do you think Fileta means by saying, "It is a give-and-take that must never desperately give too much or fearfully give too little"?
I think a good time to start dating is when you know you have a strong relationship with god and know what you want in a female/male. Dating outward will look differently with a couple because they wil know their limits that God has made clear like no sex before marriage which many people take forgranted today. It will also be differnt because you both might start praying for the relationship to workout threw all the ups and downs. That is how dating outward will be much different then just dating outward without following God.
ReplyDelete-The one and only Daniel Dmytriw
I think you should start dating when you are comfortable with someone and enjoy being with them. Loving outward will show they follow in God and have limits for their relationship with eachother.
ReplyDeleteI think you should start dating your partner when you get comfortable with them. You shouldn't just want to date them for their looks or their social status. You got to like them for whats on the inside too. I think if your a follower of Jesus then you should wait to have sex till marriage. If you wait to have sex till marriage then you know your partner isn't just dating for your body. Then you will know they like you for who you are.
ReplyDelete~Chris Szadoooooo
You bring up a good point about being "comfortable" before you start dating. It seems like most of us start dating once we find out that the person we like also likes us. Then they start dating to find out if they're comfortable. What if people hung out more to find out if they enjoyed being around each other. Then, if things seem cool, they start dating. I don't know. Just thinking.
DeleteYou should start dating when you feel comfortable with it. YOU need to be comfortable with it; don't let other people pressure you into it. In my opinion, you should get to know the person before you start dating them. That way you can know whether you want to date them or not.
ReplyDeleteDating sometimes is scary. You get so caught up in trying to support and love the person, that you start to lose your friends. They start to wither away since you are spending less time with them and more time with that someone.
ReplyDeleteDating can be scary sometimes, but when you become truly comfortable with and around that specific person you know its time to start dating. Dating outward will look differently if you follow Jesus because you put limits on the physical part of the relationship, making the relationship based greatly on the person's personality.
ReplyDelete-Robert Spencer
Lets face it, we've all thought about dating at some point in our lives. Thinking about the kind of person you want to be with is a good idea. I think you should get to know the person first before you date them. You want to make sure they share the same values as you do so you are both on the same page. Take things slow and don't rush it. Ignoring the physical part in a relationship is hard. But once you find someone you truely love, you will be more interested in their personality and their opinions.
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