This is because one of the most dangerous, exciting, and satisfying journeys of life is the adventure of finding and learning to love one person, and love them well.
One contemporary author who writes a great deal about love is Debra K. Fileta. She is a regular relationship columnist for Relevant Magazine. Read her article: Here's How to Find True LoveI'd like to get some dialogue running about Fileta's three concepts of dating inward, outward, and upward.
After reading about dating outward in her article, here are some questions I think that are worth exploring:
Why is this so scary?
When is a good time to start?
How will dating outward look differently if you're a follower of Jesus? What do you think Fileta means by saying, "It is a give-and-take that must never desperately give too much or fearfully give too little"?
love for guys is hard to say because they want to get physical. But for girls they don't want to get physical because they really don't want to.------Austin hajduk
ReplyDeleteYou have tapped into a major male/female difference. For many guys getting physical is, in their mind, the same as love. For many girls, they relate more emotionally and physical closeness comes out of feeling more comfortable emotionally and that often takes more time. Guys, then, have to learn how to control their physical desires and respect the more slow-going nature of many girls.
DeleteLove is hard to admit sometimes. Being physical in a relationship shouldn't be the only reason why you like someone. -Kelly Miles
ReplyDeleteI think its scary because you dont know how your love with that person is going to go. I also agree "one of the most dangerous, exciting, and satisfying journeys of life" because you dont know where its going to go with that one person or who your going to meet
ReplyDeleteIn a relationship, I truly believe communication really matters in a relationship.You should be able to communicate with the person you're dating or u love. When you communicated with the person your love, it strengthens your relationship and know what is acceptable.
ReplyDeleteLove is give and take away because you have to give yourself to another person and care for them. You need to focus on another person and yourself for a stable relationship.
ReplyDeleteLove is a scary thing because you never know what your partner is thinking. What if they don't really love you. That's a scary thing.--Kyla Fuller
ReplyDeleteIt can be scary, but as you understand people better through experience, you’ll get a better sense of how someone else feels about you and the also the kind of people you will want to be interested in. It’s also valuable to learn how guys are and think. Most of us assume the opposite sex is just like us with a different body, but they are actually like two different species. Finding good books or websites, particularly from a Christian perspective, can really help.
DeleteYou book in particular that is very popular on the subject of explaining the differences between men and women is Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus. It’s not a Christian book per se, but I’ve read it and agree with it quite a bit.
DeleteWhile a physical relationship is great I agree that communication is also needed. If the two that are dating cannot communicate then how can their relationship ever progress.
ReplyDeleteLove can be scary because to trust someone else is hard to do sometimes. Trust doesn't just mean cheating or staying faithful. You trust that person with your thoughts and feelings. What if that person doesn't feel the same way?
ReplyDeleteIt is a scary thing because you can't tell how our life is going to be with them. In the end it could or could not work out-ggGabe
ReplyDeleteLove is a scary thing but gets easier when you actually care about someone. You need to trust someone to truly love them. -Joey Gentile
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