This is because one of the most dangerous, exciting, and satisfying journeys of life is the adventure of finding and learning to love one person, and love them well.
One contemporary author who writes a great deal about love is Debra K. Fileta. She is a regular relationship columnist for Relevant Magazine. Read her article: Here's How to Find True LoveI'd like to get some dialogue running about Fileta's three concepts of dating inward, outward, and upward.
After reading about dating inward in her article, here are some questions I think that are worth exploring:
What in the world does it mean to "get to know yourself"?
Why is dating inward important to a relationship?
I think it is important to date inward in a relationship, so that you know yourself, and who you would want to be with. It is also important to have respect for yourself and feel good about yourself when you are in a relationship, which is part of dating inward.
ReplyDeleteDating inward is important in a relationship because it helps sets boundaries for what you are willing and not willing to do with other people. A lot of young couples don't take into consideration what their boundaries are. Doing anything and everything that might not exactly be healthy for a relationship but they don't care. - Daniel Cartellone
ReplyDeleteOften, when I mention that Beth and I talked about our physical boundaries when we were dating, people think we're so weird. But, we are so glad we did because, not only did it keep us from going too far, it kept us focused on the point of dating: getting to know each other and having fun!
DeleteI think dating inward helps us in many ways.it helps us to find someone to marry and it helps us to learn how to respect ourselves and one another
ReplyDeleteI think that dating inward allows a person to persevere the qualities one desires in another individual, and in ones self. This allows a happier relationship, and in turn helps improve ones self worth by looking inward and hoping to change his or her outward appearance, impact on world, and in the dating world dating. -Matthew_J._Leu
ReplyDeleteI never really thought about "dating inward." Mrs. Fileta made some great points. Getting to know yourself is really important. You need to have a relationship with yourself before you can have one with others. If we aren't comfortable with who we are then dating other people won't go over well. Before we get ourselves into a relationship we need to stop and make sure we know who we are and what we want. I'm going to make sure I step back and date inward before putting myself into relationships.
ReplyDeleteEmily Steinberg
The more you feel secure in who you are, the less likely you are to make bad moves in a relationship. When we look to someone else to make us "something" or make us "worthy" we get ourselves in a dangerous situation. Now, we all grow throughout life in being more secure in who we are, but it's good to start early and especially learn to be like Paul, content in the Lord in every circumstance.
DeleteI really agree with the fact that you have to date yourself (get to know yourself) before you start to date other people. You will never know what you want if you don't genuinely know yourself. I never thought about that you have to first start out with inward relationships first before you go to any other stage in the specific relationship. Then i also agree that communication is so very important because if you don't set boundaries early in the relationship things could get serious too fast and possibly go too far. But most of all have a God pleasing relationship and have one that agrees with what is stated in the Bible.
ReplyDeleteRachel Graham 11th period
This is a great way to look at dating. To date other people you should first know yourself. Dating inward helps you to know your own morals and values, and what you need to remember while dating outward, so you can date upward. It's easy to lose sight of this, unless, of course, you first and foremost date inward
ReplyDeleteI never thought of getting to know myself before dating other people. This step is important for many reasons such as making ground rules, getting to know what you want, and how to achieve those goals.
ReplyDeleteGetting to know yourself before you start dating is important because you allow yourself to think about what and who you like. Dating inwardly is important in a relationship because it can balance things out between two people.
ReplyDeleteIt's important to love inward so you know what love you will produce. Then you can find someone to love that will fit your need..
ReplyDeleteDavis Kuhrt 10